The Bond Between Siblings

 A siblings bond is painful at times. The very first days of our lives, the earliest memories are shared with our siblings. These memories include the most fondest right down to the most embarrassing ones. When forced to recall those days, the sweetness of sharing a meal, playing games, joking around are accompanied by the slightest bitterness of stupid fights and tantrums. For those who are younger they're always a couple of steps behind, always trying to catch up but falling short. Sometimes it's irksome, being the subject of lectures, being told you're not old enough to do what your older siblings do isn't fun. Most times it's like being on cloud nine, everyone gives you attention, showers you with love. But everyone grows old, and with age death looms ever closer. When someone's been by your side your whole life, you never imagine being without them.

Aging is at times accompanied by growing apart. As children, every feud is a minor setback. Every moment of kindness as pure as they come. The subject of a feud used to be a toy or the TV remote, whereas as adults, it's sinister topics like your worth as a person. No matter how big the battle was back then, no one was seething with hatred. It would've taken less than five minutes to make it back to peaceful times. Yet in between the decades something slips away. A loving gaze turns into a hateful one, conversations become full of spite and bitter words, the excitement of sharing something gets replaced with dread. The bond that you held so dear, reveals its value after it has faded away. Maybe it's because precious things are fragile, even a scratch ruins its appeal or perhaps someone chipped away at it, even though you tried desperately to keep it from harm.

Despite how broken that connection may be, it isn't irreparable. There's no need to conquer mountains, just a small step towards love and kindness is sufficient. Our family shapes us into who we are: we learn from their actions, right and wrong alike. Being a bit forgiving is the least we can do. We ourselves aren't perfect people, and if we're to seek someone's forgiveness we have to forgive those who have done us wrong as well.

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